It tears away from us all but the things
that cannot be torn,
so that we see ourselves as we really are.
It’s happened to me; I know it’s happened to you too. Someone we loved and depended on is no longer here. Or something we counted on didn’t happen. Or maybe we’ve gotten exactly what we wanted and realized it wasn’t what we thought it was at all.
We didn’t make a Plan B, nor do we have any interest in one for that matter. We rail against the unfairness of it all, the fact that all our efforts at building a life with this person, this job, this house, this move, etc., seem to be for nothing. And yet despite the pain of loss, of adversity, when I think about everything that is good in my life, all of it happened because of an unanticipated loss or change.
Let’s be clear: finding meaning after loss does not justify a death. When death takes a loved one, it’s especially hard to imagine that there will ever be good in life again. Sometimes grief takes us to a place where we simply don’t care about anything. And yet when the shaking is done, what is left can never be taken away.
How has adversity affected you?
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